Self-harm - a parents guide

Life can be difficult for young people. Social media brings positive opportunities but is also a constant stream of pressure. COVID-19 brought specific issues around isolation, fear and bereavement to many your people. School pressures remain high. Body image and the way they are viewed by peers can cause low self worth and high expectations. Sometimes these things can feel unbearable and young people turn to self-harm. 

Over the last decade superficial to moderate self harm has become a common way for young people to express difficult emotions. This is often difficult for adults to understand.

Even with supportive family and friends you may find out that a young person you care about has self-harmed. This can be very distressing for you and bring up a range of feelings such as guilt, confusion and panic.

People often say those who self-harm are 'attention seekers', at cherry pie we believe if someone is seeking attention it is because they are looking for help.

Things you can do to help your young person:
* When they tell you, don't get cross
* Try and speak calmly and ask if they want to talk about it
* Try and understand (young people tell us that their adults 'don't get it, or will shout')
* Remove any dangerous items from easy access
* If you are significantly concerned about their mental health and are worried that they are feeling suicidal, take them straight to A&E